Lighthouse Within
Welcome to the Lighthouse Within Podcast. I’m Raina Rose, a coach and psychology nerd passionate about creating a space where you can come as you are and find connection through reflection. Through solo episodes and meaningful shared conversations, we’ll dive into the beauty of self-exploration, the power of authentic connection, and the courage it takes to show up, expand, and embrace our truest selves. Most of all, we’ll remind each other that we’re never alone in this beautiful, messy human experience and there is always an opportunity to come home to ourselves. Each episode is an invitation to pause, reflect, and deepen the connection we have to our unique inner light. So let’s get cozy - and shine together.
Lighthouse Within
#16 What’s Yours to Carry and What’s Not
If you’ve ever felt like the one holding everything together—the fixer, the emotional caretaker, the one who makes sure everyone else is okay—this episode is for you. It’s easy to take on the weight of others’ emotions, struggles, and choices, but at what cost?
In this episode, I’m unpacking why we feel responsible for things that aren’t ours to carry, how childhood patterns and trauma responses shape this tendency, and what it actually means to let go. I’ll share my own experience of learning to release the pressure to fix and save, and the powerful lesson that we can love people deeply without carrying their pain for them.
This conversation is all about honoring where you are and the practice of moving from the inside out—not based on how others feel or react. If you’re someone who struggles with carrying too much, I'm right there with you and this one is for us.
Let this be your reminder that you aren't alone; let’s explore what it means to truly let go of what isn't ours.
Resource recommendations:
- Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment | Amir Levine & Rachel Heller
- How to Be the Love You Seek | Dr. Nicole LePera